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In Motherhood on
December 20, 2017

6 fears I had about motherhood that disappeared the moment I held my baby

To be honest, there will always be fears that a new mom will face from time to time. Okay, to be even more honest, maybe everyday. Don’t worry, I am here to help you get through them. As a new mom myself, I can relate – I had many fears. But guess what? We are still here, 14 months in, and everyone is alive and happy as can be! Take a seat, relax, grab your coffee and let’s disprove those “what if” thoughts that are inside that mommy brain of yours. 

 

1. What if I can’t I get through the delivery? 

This was my greatest fear about getting pregnant. Will I ever be able to push out this baby? The answer is YES, you will. Do you ever scroll through your Instagram feed and see friends with their new babies, all ‘happy-go-lucky,’ and wonder how they were a few hours before? Delivery isn’t a walk in the park, but you will get through it. And what better motivation than a sweet little bundle in your arms afterwards?

The day of my induction I was surprisingly very calm. At that point I was so uncomfortable and just ready to meet our baby. When you get past 30 weeks you are probably going to feel the same way. All you can think of it “Lets get the show on the road already!”.

Trust me, you got this! Grab your closest support system and get ready to push – just keep focusing on how worth it it is all going to be.

 

2. What if I am doing it wrong?

Not everyone raises their child the same, but at the end of the day we have one common goal: to do what is best for our babies. Don’t be discouraged if the way you choose to parent is different than your neighbor, sisters, or co-worker. 

Do what is right for YOU, and your family. The first few weeks I questioned myself a lot but had done a lot of research to prepare myself for these very moments. Grab some “first time mommy” books, meet up with a close friend who’s been there, and seek truthful advice from family who will tell you what it is really like. Stop wondering ‘what if’ I am doing it wrong and start asking yourself, but what if I am doing it right? Because you are!

 

3. What if people think that I am a ‘bad’ mom?

We have all been there. For example, the time when you said you would never do that – and there you are, handing over your cell phone to keep your child entertained. News flash- you are NOT a bad mom.

We all have those days where we need a five minute break. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel less valuable than you truly are. As mothers, we should be there to encourage one another and offer a helping hand whenever we can. But at the end of the day, if you are doing the best that you can, who cares what anyone else thinks? 

 

4. What if I don’t know what to do?

That’s what we have Pediatricians for. That’s what we have mommy friends for. That’s why we have “What To Expect” books for. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

My personal favorite places to go and ask questions are Facebook groups and mommy forums for new moms – I throw out questions and usually get responses within minutes. It’s a great way to connect with new moms and with mothers who have been exactly where you are. Websites like Breastfeeding World are also packed with info! 

Don’t be afraid to seek advice from women – they usually love to help. Never feel embarrassed to ask for help – one of the most common regrets new moms have is not reaching out more to those around them.

 

5. What if I can’t get my body back to the way it was?

You absolutely can and will with a bit of patience, time and perseverance. During my pregnancy I tried to eat as healthy as possible for not only the baby, but for myself as well. I walked 3-4 times a week to stay active. After I gave birth I didn’t have a lot of weight to lose, since most of the weight that I gained was just the baby, and part of my weight loss was also related to breastfeeding

If you still have a few pounds to go, don’t feel discouraged. You just had a baby and you are beautiful. Enjoy this time, and after you have completely healed, slowly get back into a consistent workout routine.

 

6. What if I don’t have a social life anymore?

It’s true that once you have a baby you will have less free time on your hands. However, that doesn’t mean that you still can’t have fun. In fact, after I had my baby it seemed I really took advantage of any free time or nights out, and appreciated them even more than before.

It’s good to get a mental break from time to time.  If you prefer a date night out with the hubby, ask a close family member or friend to watch the baby and go without guilt.

Lastly, if I could offer you one piece of advice it would be to not to dwell on the fears that you have about parenthood. Rather place your focus on the positives, and be encouraged in knowing that many moms have gone before you and made out okay. My hope for you is that all of these fears will disappear when you hold your baby for the first time  as well!

 

This post was written by Jess, but first found on Society Letters here.

In Motherhood on
November 1, 2017

The 12 TOP TOYS for baby’s first year

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Since Landon just turned ONE (say what!?), I decided to compile a list of his favorite toys throughout the year. I know as a first time mom, I was always having to research what toys to buy Landon, that he would find fun but were educational at the same time. I ‘pinned’ a bunch of articles on ‘top toys for baby’s first year’, but I wanted to compile our own list of personal favorites to share with you all!

 

Some of Landon’s favorite first-year toys:

 

1 month – Baby Einstein Take Along Tunes Musical Toy 

This little toy was a hit. He loved the flashing lights and melodies of the music. Perfect size to take along on car rides or a stroll in the park.

2 months – Tiny Love Gymini Super Deluxe Lights & Music Play Mat

This mat was by far one of Landon’s favorite things. He loved the jungle animals and all of the colors. The flowers on the mat are touchable and glow, so when baby begins to crawl they can push the buttons. When Landon was learning how to sit up, he would hold onto both sides of bars to balance himself. It was so cute!

3 months – Baby Einstein Sea Dreams Soother 

A year later and he still loves this thing. This aquarium slips over the side of the crib and baby can look at it when they go to bed. This toy makes soothing music and underwater sounds, while the fish & sea turtles swim from side to side. Highly recommend it!

4 months– Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn Puppy’s Activity Home

This was Landon’s favorite toy. He still plays with it sometimes. When he got used to what this toy does, he was obsessed with opening and closing the blue door and spinning the rattle at the bottom to play the music. It was like clockwork, every morning he would go over to his house- spin the rattle and turn on the light. So cute.

5 months – Baby Einstein Activity Jumper

This jumper was great for L. He loved the colors and interactive toys hanging from the side. He used this jumper up until he was around 8/9 months and then didn’t want to be in it anymore. For the time he did use it, it was totally worth it. Afterwards, all he wanted to do was use it as a support for standing!

6 months – Little Tikes Rainmaker 

Landon was fascinated by the sound of the beads as you turn this shaker from side to side. This always seemed to entertain him and was easy to pack up on the go.

7 monthsBanana training toothbrush and teether

This was GREAT for teething. Landon still loves to suck and gnaw his teeth on this teether. Easy to clean and fits perfectly into babies little hands.

8 months – VTech Sit-to-Stand Learning Walker

All I can say is, AWESOME! The great part about this toy is that the top of it has an activity table- which is detachable, so baby can play with it on the floor as well. The activity table teaches sounds, numbers and words. We loved this walker so much!

9 months – Fisher Price – Dance & Move BeatBow Wow

Love this dancing, interactive dog. Every time we play this, Landon’s face lights up- he smiles from ear to ear. After a few times showing him, he learned to press the button himself to watch the puppy dance. He always tries to kiss the dog, I guess that means he likes him a lot 😉

10 months – Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn Around The Town Learning Table

We just recently bought this table for Landon and really seemed to enjoy it! His favorite thing (no surprise) was the cell phone. He is obsessed with our phones, so he was ecstatic when he got one of his own 😉 It’s great for when baby starts to stand, because they walk around the table and play with all of the different learning tools. What I like about this toy is that there are 3 levels that you can change the table to, which allows for advanced learning (it even teaches baby some Spanish!)

11 months – EverEarth Garden Activity Cube

We were given this activity cube as a gift and what a great one at that! This cube has 6 sides, allowing for play on all angles, literally. Landon really enjoys playing with this cube, twirling around the little balls from side to side. This toy is not the cheapest, but is made by EverEarth and great quality and is totally worth the splurge.

12 monthsLittle Tikes Cozy Coupe

To be honest, I am writing this post before Landon has been able to try this little car out yet- however, I have heard great things about it! I mean, who hasn’t had one of these growing up? I know I did! I can’t wait to see him sit in the car- I know he will get a kick out of it, for sure!

What were your child’s favorite toys during their first year? Leave me a comment below!


Related post: 10 ‘must have’ items for your newborn baby

 

In Motherhood on
September 20, 2017

10 ‘must have’ items for your newborn baby

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Getting through the first weeks with a newborn is not easy, as any mom out there would agree, but there have been many baby items that have it made it that much more bearable for us – and I wanted to share them with you! Keep in mind that these items are not uncommon, however are certainly ‘must haves’ for the new mommy and daddy. Don’t forget to add them to your baby registry!

 

Below are my recommendations for the top ten items that you “must have” for your newborn baby:

1. Medela Soft Shell bra inserts

These things were lifesavers for me. If you plan to breastfeed, these were the best recommendation I ever got. If you are breastfeeding, your nipples will get extremely sore and cracked – so sore to the point that you don’t want to wear a shirt or even shower! These shells make it a lot more tolerable. You insert them into your bra or cami and your nipple sits in a dome, so that it doesn’t touch anything. They are also great for when your milk supply comes in because it collects and catches any leakage (before your shirt gets soaked).

2. Kimono Tees

Your baby will love these! I would suggest getting a pack of 3, since you’ll use them quite frequently. They open and snap in the front, instead of having to put something over the baby’s head. These are great because while the baby’s umbilical cord is drying up, you don’t need to irritate it by putting a traditional onesie on. Our baby was comfy in his kimono and we had him wear it to bed every night until his cord fell off.

3. Breast pump

A breast pump is a must have item, even if just for back up. Your breasts become so engorged the first few weeks that you may need to pump after your baby eats, just to relieve the pain you feel. Whatever you pump, make sure to freeze for later!

4. Rock and play sleeper

This is great for when you need a break or baby needs a change of scenery. Ours rocks and vibrates, and Landon slept very well in it. It is compact and lightweight, making it so easy to pack and take with us when we went to visit family or when we dropped him off at daycare. 

5. Muslin Swaddle blankets

These come in so many awesome patterns and are so soft. We swaddled Landon every night before he went to bed, for the first month or so. We found him getting the best sleep when he was swaddled. The tighter the swaddle, the better they tend to sleep – but remember, not too tight!

6. Pampers Swaddlers

One word, amazing. These newborn diapers have a strip that runs down the front of the diaper that lets you know if your baby has peed or not. The strip is yellow and will turn blue when saturated with urine. It is an easy way to know when to change the diaper at a quick glance.

7. Lulyboo Baby Lounger

This portable baby lounger is a God-send. We took it with us anytime we left the house to go visit friends/family. It is a pack-and-go (it folds up into a backpack for convenient travel) bassinet that is fun and engaging and keeps baby comfy and safe when you leave the house. We purchased the Lulyboo Baby Lounger To Go and love it. It is good for the first three months or until your baby outgrows it.

8. Baby Mittens

You wouldn’t believe how long your babies nails can get, even right after they are born – you may even need to give your baby a manicure right when you get home like we did. Mittens are important to have on hand as babies tend to scratch their faces in their sleep or while moving around.

9. Binky

We were very hesitant to use a binky at first, but it really helped soothe Landon when we were changing or bathing him. We don’t encourage him to use it all the time, however it is better than him sucking on his fingers. We asked our doctor and he eased our fears by saying it can help with the hiccups and even reduces the risk of SIDS. If you are concerned or on the fence, check with your pediatrician and make the right decision for your family. Also, make sure to buy the 0-6m size, which is much smaller and fits the newborn face better.

10. Micro Steam Bags

These are great, affordable sterilizing bags that you can use up to 20 times per use. You just insert water, the items you want to clean, and then microwave for 1-3 minutes depending on your microwave wattage. It’s simple and easy and makes the whole sterilizing process 10x easier!

I know a lot of these items seem so obvious, but they really were lifesavers for us! I would love to hear what some of you seasoned moms have to say about products or items you think are your favorite ‘must have’ items. Make sure to leave me a comment below!

 

This post was first seen on Society Letters here.


If you liked this post you may also like these other related posts written by Jess:

BREASTFEEDING ESSENTIALS FOR THE NEW MOM

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