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In Motherhood on
December 20, 2017

6 fears I had about motherhood that disappeared the moment I held my baby

To be honest, there will always be fears that a new mom will face from time to time. Okay, to be even more honest, maybe everyday. Don’t worry, I am here to help you get through them. As a new mom myself, I can relate – I had many fears. But guess what? We are still here, 14 months in, and everyone is alive and happy as can be! Take a seat, relax, grab your coffee and let’s disprove those “what if” thoughts that are inside that mommy brain of yours. 

 

1. What if I can’t I get through the delivery? 

This was my greatest fear about getting pregnant. Will I ever be able to push out this baby? The answer is YES, you will. Do you ever scroll through your Instagram feed and see friends with their new babies, all ‘happy-go-lucky,’ and wonder how they were a few hours before? Delivery isn’t a walk in the park, but you will get through it. And what better motivation than a sweet little bundle in your arms afterwards?

The day of my induction I was surprisingly very calm. At that point I was so uncomfortable and just ready to meet our baby. When you get past 30 weeks you are probably going to feel the same way. All you can think of it “Lets get the show on the road already!”.

Trust me, you got this! Grab your closest support system and get ready to push – just keep focusing on how worth it it is all going to be.

 

2. What if I am doing it wrong?

Not everyone raises their child the same, but at the end of the day we have one common goal: to do what is best for our babies. Don’t be discouraged if the way you choose to parent is different than your neighbor, sisters, or co-worker. 

Do what is right for YOU, and your family. The first few weeks I questioned myself a lot but had done a lot of research to prepare myself for these very moments. Grab some “first time mommy” books, meet up with a close friend who’s been there, and seek truthful advice from family who will tell you what it is really like. Stop wondering ‘what if’ I am doing it wrong and start asking yourself, but what if I am doing it right? Because you are!

 

3. What if people think that I am a ‘bad’ mom?

We have all been there. For example, the time when you said you would never do that – and there you are, handing over your cell phone to keep your child entertained. News flash- you are NOT a bad mom.

We all have those days where we need a five minute break. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel less valuable than you truly are. As mothers, we should be there to encourage one another and offer a helping hand whenever we can. But at the end of the day, if you are doing the best that you can, who cares what anyone else thinks? 

 

4. What if I don’t know what to do?

That’s what we have Pediatricians for. That’s what we have mommy friends for. That’s why we have “What To Expect” books for. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

My personal favorite places to go and ask questions are Facebook groups and mommy forums for new moms – I throw out questions and usually get responses within minutes. It’s a great way to connect with new moms and with mothers who have been exactly where you are. Websites like Breastfeeding World are also packed with info! 

Don’t be afraid to seek advice from women – they usually love to help. Never feel embarrassed to ask for help – one of the most common regrets new moms have is not reaching out more to those around them.

 

5. What if I can’t get my body back to the way it was?

You absolutely can and will with a bit of patience, time and perseverance. During my pregnancy I tried to eat as healthy as possible for not only the baby, but for myself as well. I walked 3-4 times a week to stay active. After I gave birth I didn’t have a lot of weight to lose, since most of the weight that I gained was just the baby, and part of my weight loss was also related to breastfeeding

If you still have a few pounds to go, don’t feel discouraged. You just had a baby and you are beautiful. Enjoy this time, and after you have completely healed, slowly get back into a consistent workout routine.

 

6. What if I don’t have a social life anymore?

It’s true that once you have a baby you will have less free time on your hands. However, that doesn’t mean that you still can’t have fun. In fact, after I had my baby it seemed I really took advantage of any free time or nights out, and appreciated them even more than before.

It’s good to get a mental break from time to time.  If you prefer a date night out with the hubby, ask a close family member or friend to watch the baby and go without guilt.

Lastly, if I could offer you one piece of advice it would be to not to dwell on the fears that you have about parenthood. Rather place your focus on the positives, and be encouraged in knowing that many moms have gone before you and made out okay. My hope for you is that all of these fears will disappear when you hold your baby for the first time  as well!

 

This post was written by Jess, but first found on Society Letters here.

In Motherhood on
May 9, 2017

My Very First Mother’s Day

As Mother’s Day approaches, I cannot help but reflect on the past six months. Being a mom to Landon has been one of the biggest pleasures and joys of my life. I never knew that I could love someone this much. He has grown from a little baby who would sleep most of the day and drink momma’s milk when he was hungry, to now being able to sit up on his own, hold his own bottle and eat real food! He is my independent, happy, always smiling, blonde hair, blue-eyed baby.

When I am away from him, I miss him, and constantly think about him. He is my best friend and I cherish every moment that we spend together. His smile can light up a room. I am so privileged to be called his mommy and a part of his world. I love watching him grow and become his own person each and every day.

I am so grateful to be celebrating my first Mother’s Day this coming Sunday. I can now say that I truly understand what it is like to be a mom.

Being a mom is

Being there for the little moments, being up at 3am when he is crying and hungry, being the one to rock you back to sleep, being there to sing ‘you are my sunshine’ when you get your shots at the Doctors, and being there to cheer you on as you roll over onto your belly for the first time. Being a mom is simply AMAZING and I wouldn’t change my title for anything in the world. In fact, it is THE BEST JOB I could ever have. I love you so much Landon. You never cease to amaze me!

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In Breastfeeding on
March 21, 2017

The truth about breastfeeding

From the moment I found out that I was going to be a mom, I knew that I wanted to breastfeed. I know how beneficial breastfeeding is for your baby and being that I am a nurse and have great immunity, I wanted to pass on all those beneficial antibodies to my baby.

I tried to do my research before Landon was born on the best ways and techniques for feeding a newborn. I read various articles and excerpts from my momma-to-be books, searched tons and tons of Pinterest articles on breastfeeding, and even asked a few mommy friends ‘the scoop’ and what worked for them. However to be honest, the best way I learned about the ‘how to’s on breastfeeding’ was by just doing it.

I found it stressful to become good at breastfeeding in the hospital. It isn’t something you just learn overnight, it takes time. Each nurse taught me a different technique and their way of doing things, which just ending up leaving me in more confusion than before. The hardest part for me was getting the baby to latch. It wasn’t as easy as 1-2-3, like I thought. It took a lot of patience, suffering through quite a bit of pain, and staying up long nights with baby.

I remember back to one specific night in the early weeks of breastfeeding. It was 2:30am and I came downstairs to feed the baby because my husband had work the next day. It took over an hour and a half of trying many different techniques to get him to latch. It just wasn’t working. The baby was very hungry and I was exhausted. I was about to give up. Was there something wrong with me? Why couldn’t he latch on? I felt helpless. This is the struggle of a new breastfeeding mom.

I had my precious little son three months ago and have been successfully breastfeeding him since. I will say that it has been a journey. We have had some easy days but many hard days in the beginning. One of the most truthful pieces of advice I received, was to give breastfeeding for two weeks before considering calling it quits (which wasn’t even an option for me). That golden number ‘two weeks’ was the amount of time it truly took baby and I to get the hang of what we were doing and what worked for each other. Being three months in now, I will say it was 100% worth it. Hang in there- it gets easier, I promise.

Thinking back from where I started to where I am now, I cannot help but feel a sense of accomplishment. It feels great to be able to provide for your baby and to be the one they turn to when they need sustenance. Having those little eyes stare back up and yours is priceless and makes my heart melt every time. No one said it was going to be easy but they did say it was going to be worth it.

So, I encourage all you mommas-to-be out there to give breastfeeding a try. What do you have to loose? All you have is something to gain. For those of you currently struggling, I ask you to hang in there for the ‘magical two’. You wouldn’t believe how easy it gets after this point. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! You are doing amazing things for your baby and his/her health. Go Mamma go!

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